When Should People Have Sex?

I’m going to be talking about something that a lot of folks are confused on.

I had a young man come up to me this weekend after one of my seminars and he informed me that he was having sex with his girlfriend. He wanted to know what I thought about that and if I thought it was OK that he was doing this.

When should a couple commit to have sex?
 
When they ‘fall in love’?
When they have been dating three months?
When a couple gets in engaged?
When both parties feel that it’s time?
Many times people will chose the last one.
When both parties feel that it’s time?

We need to find out what God’s will is for this topic.

‘For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.’ 1 Thessalonians 4:3

So the question is what does it mean to be ‘sexually immoral?’

1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20;1 Corinthians 5:1;6:13,18;10:8;2 Corinthians 12:21;Galatians 5:19;Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5;1 Thessalonians 4:3;Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

The short and sweet of it this… sex outside of marriage is not something that God smiles on. There is a reason why God has put guard rails up for us on this topic of having sex. God is after our joy.

He created our bodies, and knows what is best.

He has a creative order.

If we follow after His direction… our joy is made full.
( I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. John 15:11)


When we chose to follow our own desires, and our own impulses that’s when we stop worshiping the creator, and start worshiping the creation.  (Romans 1:25 )